Feast or Famine

(originally posted on January 12, 2010)


It is time that I shared with the world a phenomenon that has been happening to me for many years now.  It's a theory I like to call "Feast or Famine."  If I didn't already have a large portion of research and a literature review completed-- and if my master's degree had anything to do with this topic(which it doesn't)-- I have considered writing my entire thesis on this personal theory.  I could write pages and pages on this, however, for the sake of this blog, and your time, I will give you the shorter version of my theory....

"Feast or Famine" refers to the state of dating relationships (or lack thereof) in my life.  It's as simple as this: there is either no prospects on the horizon (famine), or a plethora of prospects (feast).  It always happens this way... I could be completely single, with no single guys in sight-- a desert land, if you will. Then suddenly, not one, but two, three or even at one time, four, single guys will show up out of nowhere.  At first this may sound like I'm a hot commodity or some kind of relationship guru-- sorry, I'm neither.  It's just my luck, and while it sounds like good luck, not always.  There is never an in-between-- it's feast or famine.  (Or as -aln- sometimes calls it... "fiesta or siesta"... which interpreted, does mean "feast" or "nap.") haha.

A "feast" sounds like a pleasant state to be in, and while it should be, in my case, it usually causes chaos and thus far, it has not quite been the best "menu" for a "feast." (a.k.a. creepers, crazies, etc.)  Not all of them have been this way-- occassionally I stumble across a good one-- however, more times than not, it's been a feast not for my tasting. 


"Change your taste," you may say... and others have said that too.  However, although I'm up for trying new things and try to be as open-minded as possible, there are some things I will not budge on.  I have stuck to my "taste" for this long, and will continue to-- because I know the Lord knows it, and He will provide a guy with this same "taste" in His time. 


If you haven't noticed by now, although I'm comparing this theory to dating, it can apply to many more areas of life.  While a "feast" is sometimes encouraging, if you think about it, so can a famine.  Although the typical thought of the meaning of the word "famine" spurs thoughts of hunger, despair, and no hope.... in a time of famine in life--- whether it be dating, family, friends, job, or any other area of life--- you can choose to be sad, or choose to be excited. BE EXCITED because this moment will not last forever.  You can be excited during a famine time of dating because there is someone even better than all of those you thought were great-- and they may be right aroud the corner! You can be excited during a famine time of satisfaction in your job because there are many other opportunities and someday you may be working at something you like even better (or believe it or not, your current job might get better!). 

Yes, this is all easier said than done, but in times of feast or famine, I try to laugh instead of cry.  Although at the beginning of this post, I said that this only happens to me, I'm guessing that now you may possibly identify with a "feast or famine" time in some area of your life.  Be encouraged-- you are not alone! I am not alone! It happens.  You have the promise that God knows all about it and He's got it covered-- and I can't help but then that when I choose to laugh about it, He does too.  :)